"Markings in dry clay disappear
Only when the clay is soft again.
Scars upon the self disappear
Only when one becomes soft within."
Some scars never go away. I have that kind. It's important to acknowledge them, but there is something to be said for not using something like that to define oneself. I think the biggest challenge is to integrate it. When people tell me, "I don't see you as disabled," I want to say to them, "You don't get to ignore something I have to live with." The acknowledgement is so important. We may never be able to understand each others' wounds fully, but we can behold them, respect them, believe them. Perhaps all of that will make a way for healing.
Only when the clay is soft again.
Scars upon the self disappear
Only when one becomes soft within."
Some scars never go away. I have that kind. It's important to acknowledge them, but there is something to be said for not using something like that to define oneself. I think the biggest challenge is to integrate it. When people tell me, "I don't see you as disabled," I want to say to them, "You don't get to ignore something I have to live with." The acknowledgement is so important. We may never be able to understand each others' wounds fully, but we can behold them, respect them, believe them. Perhaps all of that will make a way for healing.
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